Archive for January, 2008


So, I spent about an hour on the phone with the IRS today. Not because I was on hold or transfered around meaninglessly. No, quite the contrary. I experienced small hold times and spent a lot of time working with the people I was speaking with in order to better understand how I should fill out my return considering I started a small business this year and would like my expenses back. Say what you want about the IRS, but my experience was of several polite, specialized people who did their job well, gave me full names and employee ID numbers in case I had problems, and looked for the best ways for me to get the most out of my refund.

On similar news, I voted today. Nothing fills me with more pride than voting. I have, in my wallet, a small piece of paper that was attached to my first voter registration card. It has a perforated edge where it was stuck to the card itself and has on it, in letters that look like they were printed on a machine from 1989, the following words, “Do what half the world only dreams about: Vote.” I think of those words often and remember what a great gift it is to live someplace where I have a say in my government. Yes, it’s small. Yes, it can be circumvented. Yes, there’s the chance that my little vote means nothing in the grand scheme of things. But I’m doing something that billions of people around the globe simply can’t. In some places they die for the privilege. All I have to do is drive around the corner on the right day. That means something.

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Graham Norton?

While I know that he is endlessly entertaining, is Graham Norton gay or just, you know, English? It’s a really thin line.

Shopping trip accomplished

M’lady and I went shopping yesterday for suits for me. We didn’t intend to buy any, but I’ve had a desire to go suit shopping for a couple of weeks now and we saw a Men’s Wearhouse on the way to Dr. Brent’s Wednesday night, so we figured it couldn’t hurt. Besides, it would help me visualize buying suits, which is one of the first things I want to do as a very wealthy man.

We went in and looked around a little. Turns out I know little to nothing about suits. Eventually we were helped by a very nice young man who measured me and showed me several options. We discussed how versatile the suits he was showing were (6-8 outfits from 4 suits) and what the difference in brands, styles, color, and fabric were. I learned quite a bit. What I was most impressed with was that when I said I wasn’t going to buy anything today, he didn’t seem disappointed or push really hard to get me to make a purchase. He tried once, but when I refused he backed off. When I go back to buy the suits he showed me, I’m making sure this guy gets the commission.

What suits did he show me? Glad you asked.

http://www.menswearhouse.com/menswear/detail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=1408474395561137&FOLDER%3C%3EbrowsePath=1408474395561137&bmUID=1200656622036

This one I thought was really nice. I liked both pairs of pants that came with it, and was especially impressed with the nap of the fabric. It felt nice and really seemed to hug me. More to the point, the jacket can double as a sport coat with slacks and a nice shirt if I get the blue rather than the black.

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I have to admit, I don’t much like three-button suits. I think they make me look shorter. More to the point, the lapels tend to be really high and I feel like it gives the impression of the suit about to choke me. This one, however, I was really happy with. It has a deeper gouge than most three-button suits, which helps with the latter problem, and actually seems to fit my body well so it doesn’t look like the third button is meant for my pants. Side-note: I didn’t realize you weren’t supposed to button the third button on a three-button suit. Fortunately, I’ve never worn one before yesterday, so I’ve never made the faux pas.

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What struck me about all the Ralph Lauren ones I put on was how light they were. I almost felt like I wasn’t wearing a jacket with this one. Or, if I was, it wasn’t a suit, it was a windbreaker. Then I looked at it, and I can promise it’s no windbreaker. I can imagine moving in this one really easily. It both looked and felt nice.

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Another option I liked in the three button, but I’m not as set on it as I am on the other ones. Still, I remember this one looked nice and, again, had the deep gouge that I liked.

Unfortunately, after scouring the Men’s Wearhouse website, I can’t find the suit that looked best on me. It was a light gray with a subtle check pattern and some blue highlights to it. Far and away, this suit looked the best on me and was my favorite. I’m just sorry I can’t find it to show it here, but trust me there will be pictures when I buy it and put it on. Plus, it’ll be tailored to fit me then.

I can’t wait to be able to get these suits. There’s something wonderful about putting on a nice suit, one that fits you. It represents class, elegance, and charm. It’s the best outfit a man can choose to put on.

This looked like fun

Because we never really know each other as well as we think, in response to this post I’d like you to ask a question. Anything about which you are curious, anything you feel you ought to know about me. Silly, serious, personal, fannish. Ask away. Then copy this to your own journal, and see what people don’t know about you.

I reserve the right to answer in personal email. 🙂

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So, I think I actually misfired while using the Law of Attraction to my advantage.

I’ve already stated that while last year was Kaoru’s Year of Health, 2008 is Kaoru’s Year of Wealth. I’m finally on a good health kick, so now I can concentrate my intention on getting the funds that I want to live the kind of life I’ve dreamed of but never believed possible. Until now.

So, for the past week and a half, anytime I’ve had some downtime I’ve been concentrating on wealth. I’ve been trying to visualize having all the money I need or want, being fabulously rich, and doing all the things I want to do. The trick with using the Law of Attraction is to really try and feel the feelings of already having what you want and fixing it in your mind, so one of the people on the Secret (Dr. John Dimartini) mentions that it’s sometimes easier to hold a thought in your mind when there’s movement and a story.

Therefore, I concocted a story in my head. One of the things I miss doing is seeing a chiropractor on a regular basis. It made me feel good, it was only ten minutes, and it helped remind me to live a healthy lifestyle in general. I stopped seeing mine, Dr. Brent Baldasares, when he dropped my insurance and I couldn’t afford to see him, especially if it involved both Mary and I. So it made sense that when I thought of being wealthy, I thought of going back to Dr. Brent’s office and starting to get adjustments again. More to the point, since I know that Dr. Brent is into the Secret, I imagined myself telling him about all the wonderful changes in my life, how I used the Law of Attraction to bring myself better health and plenty of money, among other wonderful things in my life (fortunately I’ve never been short of good friends, so I didn’t add that, but you’re all awesome). I should also note that Dr. Brent’s mentor when he was going to Life College (where all my chiropractor family members went) was Dr. Dimartini, which I think makes this choice even more appropriate.

Anyway, the last time I got an email from Dr. Brent was over a year ago when he emailed me to tell me about the Secret, which I had been watching for about two months at that point. Today I got an email from him inviting me to a Health and Wellness Workshop on Wednesday. I had used him just to get into the frame of thinking about being as wealthy as I’ve wanted, and instead I drew the man himself to me. I think I’m going to sign up for this and go, if only to see if he remembers me (it’s been a couple of years) and tell him about how I drew him to me. %)

Things like this really excite me. I can’t wait to go to USCC looking awesome and not having to worry about spending cash and how much I’m using.

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Despite it all sounding contradictory, it’s pretty close

Well, it’s been an interesting start to the new year. While I always feel that a new year must be better than the old one, if only by virtue of my having more experience and therefore a better understanding of how to make the most out of the life in front of me, there are some very specific things I wish to accomplish during 2008.

I should point out that these are not resolutions. I don’t make them. I resolved many years ago to stop making New Years resolutions as I feel that they, like diets, are too goal-oriented. If you go on a diet, you lose some weight, but you either become frustrated and give up, or you reach your goal then stop because you’ve reached your goal, only to put on weight again. If most people don’t accomplish their New Years resolutions, why should I jump on that bandwagon? That’s like traveling back in time to 1929 just to invest all of my money in the stock market.

Rather, there are things I want to do better, and I’ve decided that by the end of this year I’ll have made progress on them.

The first is my financial situation. I’m sick of living paycheck to paycheck. I’m sick of always worrying. I’m sick of debt. So, I’ve started concentrating on wealth. While I really want to be a teacher, I know that my true profession, the thing that I was born and put on this world to do, is International Jetsetting Playboy Philanthropist. There was no major that quite covered this in college, so I settled on English with a heavy focus on the Humanities in order to get the culture I need, but really what I need is a private plane (I’d be willing to share with another International Jetsetting Playboy/girl Philanthropist) and plenty of disposable income. Given that I’m a firm believer in the Law of Attraction, I’ve started concentrating on bringing this to me, and I’ll be well on my way in the next couple of months, and taking off for wonderful and exotic locals by the end of the year. This is a fact. And when I can do that, my first trips will be to visit various people around the country whom I otherwise only get to see once or twice a year, often at cons, or whom I haven’t seen for many years, like my family in Jersey. If you’d like to be on that list, feel free to comment. If you’d specifically not like to be on that list, feel free to comment. Please people, comment.

The second is that 2007 was the Year of Health for Kaoru. I lost a lot of weight and I continue to do so. Now it’s time to concentrate on fine-tuning my body into something more like I’ve always wanted. That being said, I’ve never been the “huge biceps, huge pecks, could you please widen the door for me” type. I think it’s over the top. Still, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to be finely sculpted. And I will be by the next con I attend. Now, that could be ICC, which is a lot of time, but if it’s one of the more regional cons or the possible proposed thing we’re working on here in the Southeast for Lost, then I have to get to work.

Most importantly, I’m working on my image. For the longest time I couldn’t stand being a nice guy. It was like a disease, and I railed against it in what I realize now is one of the most cliche ways. I’m just going to have to face facts that I am nice, that I care about people and try to make others happy in one way or another. Sometimes that means offering up my dubiously-labeled sage advice. Sometimes that means listening. Sometimes that means making jokes or wryly commenting on the world around us. Whatever it is, I no longer believe that this can be a hindrance to my desire to also be known as sexy, hawt, or otherwise physically irresistible. The end of 2007 proved to me that these traits are not mutually exclusive, so now I’d really like to make sure the word gets out about that. %) Seriously, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to believe myself to be both nice and hot, so there’s no reason I shouldn’t be. Jokes aside, it’s not as important to know that others feel this way, but I need to make sure that I believe this.

The last thing I need to make sure I do more in 2008 is bitch on my LJ so that some of you actually might comment. %)